Seorang teman di milis al-smadata mengajukan pertanyaan setelah saya mengirim postingan gambaran singkat tentang Psikologi Kompatiologi ala Vincent Liong (dimana aku sempat memberi sedikit komentar “satu lagi nih…such a crap, isn’t it?”)
"sakjane ono berapa psikologi bla bla bla yo?" ini bunyi pertanyaannya
Reply saya (masih via milis) adalah sebagai berikut :
Hemm…
Saya ndak tahu apa jawaban orang lain, tapi kalo saya ditanya, jawabnya akan begini :
Ketika di dunia ini ada 6.476.567.967 manusia, maka akan ada 6.476.567.967 jenis psikologi juga. Bertahun-tahun saya kenal dan mengenal teori2 yang bersliweran bahkan saling menyangkal satu sama lain, hanya satu teori yang sampai sekarang menurutku masih relevan dalam konteks "psikologi wahida". Teori itu adalah "individual differences". Bahwa Tuhan hanya menciptakan satu jenis manusia sekali saja, bahkan kembar identikpun punya perbedaan.
Dengan konteks ini, maka proses pencarian pemahaman akan psyche (jiwa) adalah suatu proses yang berkesinambungan, neverending, dan khas. Ini pointnya. Khas. Bagaimana mas yudex memahami dirinya sendiri tidak akan sama dengan bagaimana dia akan memahami mas iwan. Bagaimana mas iwan memahami mas yudex tidak akan sama dengan bagaimana mas iwan memahami mas dayat. Bahkan, bagaimana mas iwan memahami diri mas iwan sendiri hari ini mungkin tidak akan sama keesokan harinya. Meskipun mas yudex berhasil mengajak mas iwan untuk memahami mas dayat dengan cara yang sama, percayalah niscaya hasil pemahamannya pun tidak akan sama, karena apa yang telah mas iwan lalui dalam hidup tidak sama dengan mas yudex, sehingga pola pikir, judgement dll tidak sama, dan itu akan membuat hasil pemahaman berbeda.
Ruwet yo? hi hi. Tapi sebenarnya saya berangkat dari sesuatu yang simple kok.
Prinsipnya, wajar saja kalo Vincent Liong mengklaim menemukan Kompatiologi. Esensinya, itulah "psikologi vincent". Wajar juga kalau dia berniat spread pemikirannya itu dan mengajak oranglain untuk mengikuti buah pemikirannya. Yang td sempat saya sebut crap, adalah bila dengan suatu jenis pemahaman kita jadi menutup mata terhadap yang lain. Yang crap adalah bila kita menaruh perhatian yang lebih besar kepada sesuatu melebihi yang seharusnya. Oh, teori psikologi ini lho hebat, yang itu sih kurang mengena. Oh, prestasi seorang vincent liong memang fenomenal, dengan cara dekon nya itu dia bisa menginstall sesuatu yang besar dalam diri dan pribadi seseorang. Oh, crap...
Kapan itu saya sempat diskusi dengan mas Iwan betapa saya kok selama ini kurang antusias dengan berbagai macam metode self-enrichment semacam ESQ, SEFT, atau yg terbaru dekonstruksi ala vincent liong ini. Bukan karena saya merasa itu kurang berguna, tidak. Saya yakin suatu metode lahir dari proses yang panjang, dan apapun itu, tidak mungkin akan useless (in fact, tak ada setitikpun di dunia ini yang tidak ada gunanya). Saya cuma berpikir mungkin "psikologi wahida" punya prinsip sendiri untuk tidak terkungkung oleh kebesaran suatu metode2 pelatihan semacam itu yang takutnya secara esensi, terlalu overrated.
Sayang sekali kalau seseorang terkungkung dalam kata2 "saya ikut terdekon", atau "saya pengikut freud" atau bahkan "saya berhutang kepada ESQ, karena setelah mengikutinya hidup saya berubah drastis". Oh…give me a break! bahkan sesama peserta ESQ pasti memiliki kadar pencerapan yang berbeda satu sama lain, kadar interpretasi yang tidak akan mungkin sama persis dengan yang lain. Yang bisa memastikan apakah ESQ anda memberikan dayaguna adalah diri anda sendiri.
Jadi silahkan ikut ESQ, ikut program dekon, ikut apapun itu. Dan setelahnya, mari jadikan apapun yang kita dapat disitu sebagai aksesori dalam definisi "psikologi kita sendiri". Hanya aksesori, bukan center of point apalagi jadi salah satu kiblat kita dalam berproses. Karena dunia penuh dengan hal-hal dan kejadian yang memberi kita nuansa. Hal-hal yang mungkin kecil, tapi berarti, yang mungkin akan terlewatkan kalo kita terlalu fokus pada sesuatu yang lain melebihi kadar yang seharusnya.
Aku kok wes ngelantur... .
Membuka ruang untuk diskusi nih, he he monggo disambung...
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
Monday, May 21, 2007
Low Blood-Pressure? Try this very amateur tips (or not?)
Lazy Monday, 01.41 pm
Dua hari ini KO deh. Setelah bertahun-tahun menghilang, penyakit lamaku akhir2 ini suka datang lagi. My blood-pressure goes down n all in sudden, the world just keep spinning right thru my head.
The other day when the last time my blood-press went down, my husband came up with the most silly idea. He refered to the fact that if somebody got "high blood-pressure", they tend to be more sensitive n being mad-easily over anything. So the idea is to make me angry, so my blood-pressure can raise n I can be cured..!! Ha ha ha. I love my husband, but frankly I don't know what the heck he was doing during Biologi class back in school ?? he he he.
Spending all day in bed, sucks!! Untung masih ada tv kabel, alhasil 2 hari ini jadi tv freak deh. Mostly HBO n cineMax since they got great movies going on these couple of days.
Let's see what did I got..!
"The Perfect Catch". 2005. Starring : Drew Barrymore n Jimmy Fallon.
This is the first time I watch Jimmy Falon, and he got me already. Remember when I told you that I'm not that kind of woman who can easily impressed by pretty faces? Well Jimmy (in his character in this movie) is all what it takes to impress me!! Simple ordinary guy, funny, his feet were right there on the ground, fun to be with (cos they never telling you how to behave), has adorably bad attitudes, yet has a very kind, warm n big heart. He's so NOT that metrosexual type of guy.
The movie is all about that cliche problem in man-woman relationship. Ben (Jimmy Fallon) is a favorable elementary teacher an one of Red-Sox freak!! For almost 23 years he never missed one game. Her charming girlfriend Lindsey (Drew Barrymore) is a successful executive. The opposite attracks. They make a perfect couple, Lindsey is able to catch up with the baseball game freaky Ben. She even watch the Red-Sox game along n couldn't help to enjoy it too. But when situation has to be the other way around, it goes harder for Ben. When he gave-up one game to be in Lindsay's friend's birthday, that game turned out to be the game when Red-Sox actually win over Yankees (something that don't happen in over past 100 years!!). Anyway, that costs them a split.
There is one line that impressed me about this situation, since my husband himself, is a sport game freak. "You love Red-Sox, but does it love you back?" one said to Ben. Ben got the picture when he saw Red-Sox's highly-paid player who eating in glamorous restaurant, while he n other fans r upset n sad about the lost that they got, many losts in a row. What's the point??
After living in a horrible life after the split, Ben decided to actually SELL his game ticket-seat to Lindsay's friend's husband. For a $120.000 plus condemn from all of his friends, Ben decided to quit the game for the whole season n being a miserable himself. Luckily Lindsay found this out, n stop it in a very hillarious scene when the two finally got back together again.
"If u love me enough that u will sell your ticket-seat for me, than I love you enough to tell you NOT TO!!" said Lindsey in wrap scene.
Sounds familiar problem, don't u think? Thats what I always try to do to deal with my husband's. Part of being loved just the way we are, is to loving him back just the way he is, right? I mean they way he is means, with all those "his" attributes.
"You love Red-Sox, but does it love you back?" I'll answer it YES. It gives spirit, it gives excitement, it gives joyful life, it gives something to hold on to, it even gives commitment, if not LOVE, what would you call it?
In my case, I'm not trying to say that I forced myself into soccer, no. I just can't love it no matter I've tried. But to be honest, everytime I saw my husband gets so exciting about the game, THERE!! There IS the thing that I'd loved to see. A man with excitement in his eyes, a man with something to hold on, a man with that joy n appreciation about something he's so into. I just love to see him like that!!
Tak peduli betapa bencinya aku pada hobinya, tapi melihat matanya berapi2 ketika bercerita, atau ketika menemukan t-shirt Persebaya kecil dan serta merta membelinya untuk Abe, atau ketika dengan semangat langsung berangkat ke pertandingan di Tambaksari padahal dia baru pulang dari 3 hari roadtrip luar kota.. itu yang sangat aku sukai!! Binar matanya itu, semangatnya itulah, yang membuat dia menjadi laki-laki yang sejak 12 tahun lalu tak pernah berhenti membuatku jatuh cinta. Tanpa itu, dia tak akan komplit jadi laki2 yang kusuka dan kucinta.
Well, the fact that he always tells all of his friends how lucky he was, having a wife like me who never object about his hobby or his "boys night out", it's surely a bonus... he he
Back to movie, definetely a must see for any couple. And singles too, for its such a charming, hilarious, funny, n touched movie.
And then I got this one too :
"Elektra". 2005. Starring : Jennifer Garner. Based on the Marvel's comic book. Well, this is one of the heck popular movie. I'm sure many of you have seen it already. With reviews everywhere I guess I won't say more. Except one thing...
Jennifer Garner's muscle!! O..M..G..(forgive me God, for putting your name over this crap :D). I am so envy her body!! The muscles, the tone, the torso, everything..!! - I can see the guys agreed hi hi hi- she's just such a piece of work!!
With that kind of muscle, u can just kick the bad guy's butt, yet still look beautiful in a dress. Tell me how good is that huh?! he he. To me, Garner's face n expression, is really a real deal too. She can just looks so sweet, yet highly self-awareness controlled. So loose n soft, yet strong n dark in the same time. In terms of acting, it's quite a quality isn't it?
I would call the movie average, but that Garner's muscle? It rocks!!
2.36 pm
poor me...I hardly spend much time with the kids these couple of days...hikss..
Oh no, I got that dizzy again...I think I should just stop now n lay down for a moment.
You know, everytime I got sick, there's only one thing that I always do. Fight it!! I don't go to bed when I got cold symptoms. I go for yoga instead! Get sweaty n that way the cold will hopely go away. But not with this blood-pressure thing. Yesterday I tried to manage a yoga pose n all I got is dizzy n blinking in my head.
Or maybe its just the wrong yoga pose? I dunno, I'll have to figure it out later, since its been told that yoga can help us to deal with all kind of sickness right? I owe myself a research in this...
Meanwhile...I've got to lay down now...seriously... :(
Dua hari ini KO deh. Setelah bertahun-tahun menghilang, penyakit lamaku akhir2 ini suka datang lagi. My blood-pressure goes down n all in sudden, the world just keep spinning right thru my head.
The other day when the last time my blood-press went down, my husband came up with the most silly idea. He refered to the fact that if somebody got "high blood-pressure", they tend to be more sensitive n being mad-easily over anything. So the idea is to make me angry, so my blood-pressure can raise n I can be cured..!! Ha ha ha. I love my husband, but frankly I don't know what the heck he was doing during Biologi class back in school ?? he he he.
Spending all day in bed, sucks!! Untung masih ada tv kabel, alhasil 2 hari ini jadi tv freak deh. Mostly HBO n cineMax since they got great movies going on these couple of days.
Let's see what did I got..!
"The Perfect Catch". 2005. Starring : Drew Barrymore n Jimmy Fallon.This is the first time I watch Jimmy Falon, and he got me already. Remember when I told you that I'm not that kind of woman who can easily impressed by pretty faces? Well Jimmy (in his character in this movie) is all what it takes to impress me!! Simple ordinary guy, funny, his feet were right there on the ground, fun to be with (cos they never telling you how to behave), has adorably bad attitudes, yet has a very kind, warm n big heart. He's so NOT that metrosexual type of guy.
The movie is all about that cliche problem in man-woman relationship. Ben (Jimmy Fallon) is a favorable elementary teacher an one of Red-Sox freak!! For almost 23 years he never missed one game. Her charming girlfriend Lindsey (Drew Barrymore) is a successful executive. The opposite attracks. They make a perfect couple, Lindsey is able to catch up with the baseball game freaky Ben. She even watch the Red-Sox game along n couldn't help to enjoy it too. But when situation has to be the other way around, it goes harder for Ben. When he gave-up one game to be in Lindsay's friend's birthday, that game turned out to be the game when Red-Sox actually win over Yankees (something that don't happen in over past 100 years!!). Anyway, that costs them a split.
There is one line that impressed me about this situation, since my husband himself, is a sport game freak. "You love Red-Sox, but does it love you back?" one said to Ben. Ben got the picture when he saw Red-Sox's highly-paid player who eating in glamorous restaurant, while he n other fans r upset n sad about the lost that they got, many losts in a row. What's the point??
After living in a horrible life after the split, Ben decided to actually SELL his game ticket-seat to Lindsay's friend's husband. For a $120.000 plus condemn from all of his friends, Ben decided to quit the game for the whole season n being a miserable himself. Luckily Lindsay found this out, n stop it in a very hillarious scene when the two finally got back together again.
"If u love me enough that u will sell your ticket-seat for me, than I love you enough to tell you NOT TO!!" said Lindsey in wrap scene.
Sounds familiar problem, don't u think? Thats what I always try to do to deal with my husband's. Part of being loved just the way we are, is to loving him back just the way he is, right? I mean they way he is means, with all those "his" attributes.
"You love Red-Sox, but does it love you back?" I'll answer it YES. It gives spirit, it gives excitement, it gives joyful life, it gives something to hold on to, it even gives commitment, if not LOVE, what would you call it?
In my case, I'm not trying to say that I forced myself into soccer, no. I just can't love it no matter I've tried. But to be honest, everytime I saw my husband gets so exciting about the game, THERE!! There IS the thing that I'd loved to see. A man with excitement in his eyes, a man with something to hold on, a man with that joy n appreciation about something he's so into. I just love to see him like that!!
Tak peduli betapa bencinya aku pada hobinya, tapi melihat matanya berapi2 ketika bercerita, atau ketika menemukan t-shirt Persebaya kecil dan serta merta membelinya untuk Abe, atau ketika dengan semangat langsung berangkat ke pertandingan di Tambaksari padahal dia baru pulang dari 3 hari roadtrip luar kota.. itu yang sangat aku sukai!! Binar matanya itu, semangatnya itulah, yang membuat dia menjadi laki-laki yang sejak 12 tahun lalu tak pernah berhenti membuatku jatuh cinta. Tanpa itu, dia tak akan komplit jadi laki2 yang kusuka dan kucinta.
Well, the fact that he always tells all of his friends how lucky he was, having a wife like me who never object about his hobby or his "boys night out", it's surely a bonus... he he
Back to movie, definetely a must see for any couple. And singles too, for its such a charming, hilarious, funny, n touched movie.
And then I got this one too :
"Elektra". 2005. Starring : Jennifer Garner. Based on the Marvel's comic book. Well, this is one of the heck popular movie. I'm sure many of you have seen it already. With reviews everywhere I guess I won't say more. Except one thing...Jennifer Garner's muscle!! O..M..G..(forgive me God, for putting your name over this crap :D). I am so envy her body!! The muscles, the tone, the torso, everything..!! - I can see the guys agreed hi hi hi- she's just such a piece of work!!
With that kind of muscle, u can just kick the bad guy's butt, yet still look beautiful in a dress. Tell me how good is that huh?! he he. To me, Garner's face n expression, is really a real deal too. She can just looks so sweet, yet highly self-awareness controlled. So loose n soft, yet strong n dark in the same time. In terms of acting, it's quite a quality isn't it?
I would call the movie average, but that Garner's muscle? It rocks!!
2.36 pm
poor me...I hardly spend much time with the kids these couple of days...hikss..
Oh no, I got that dizzy again...I think I should just stop now n lay down for a moment.
You know, everytime I got sick, there's only one thing that I always do. Fight it!! I don't go to bed when I got cold symptoms. I go for yoga instead! Get sweaty n that way the cold will hopely go away. But not with this blood-pressure thing. Yesterday I tried to manage a yoga pose n all I got is dizzy n blinking in my head.
Or maybe its just the wrong yoga pose? I dunno, I'll have to figure it out later, since its been told that yoga can help us to deal with all kind of sickness right? I owe myself a research in this...
Meanwhile...I've got to lay down now...seriously... :(
Sunday, May 20, 2007
Flying thought, antara capoeira, chelsea n discovery channel
Saturday Night, 22.47 pm
Wake up alone in my bedroom, laying myself down in front of hubby's laptop, watching Discovery Travel&Living Channel n drooling anything in it
Tonight is what I call an ultimate sleepless night. I can feel the sore right in my eyes, but I just cannot close them!! Been beaten for the whole afternoon by "all sitting in front of computer" activity while anak2 pada nikmati libur long weekend outdoor with neighboor kids, only make my backpain worse by now.
Sore tadi ke Pakuwon Supermal liat kompetisi n atraksi Copueira. Ini olahraga favorit suami banget, sekaligus mimpinya yang terkubur, cos by the time he felt in love with it, he already felt too old to join it, he he. Bak penjual jamu dia tak hentinya repeating his lists of "why capoeira is my favorite". Katanya (based on his opinion, his very own personal opinion if u ask me hi hi), it's a very attractive, acrobatic, exotic n so on.
Well, its been told that Capoeira is a lively Brazilian martial art that combines dance, acrobatics and music with fighting techniques. Nuansa pertunjukannya memang fun banget. Semua anggota klub duduk melingkar, menyisakan ditengahnya space untuk atraksi nya, dengan iringan musik2 ala acapella percussion disebelah sana (dimainkan bergantian, jadi kusimpulkan all of them can play those music instruments), menyanyikan bersama2 lagu upbeat mengiringi rekan yang atraksi ditengah2 lingkaran. For me it was so full of joy n spirit. All of them look so amazingly laid-back persons. Its understandable since for me, it looks like the most influencing part in capoeira isn't the martial itself, but the art, the dance, entertaining body-moving and indeed, the fun !!
Barusan kutahu dari seorang teman (via chat ym) sedikit sejarah capoeira. Katanya ini seni beladiri ala budak jaman dulu, yang tangannya dibelenggu sehingga mereka hanya bisa mengandalkan kaki mereka untuk membela diri. Itulah kenapa menurutnya kurang bagus, karena gerakannya terbatas hanya di kaki. Eh, tapi tadi kuamati, justru sebaliknya lho, salah satu kelebihan capoeira menurutku karena jangkauannya yang panjang. Mereka bisa menggunakan sepanjang tubuhnya (dari tangan yang terentang keatas tubuh sampai dengan ujung kaki) sebagai panjang jangkauan gerakan. Mereka bisa menjejakkan kedua tangan di lantai (handstand) dan meluruskan tubuh untuk menendang. Dengan cara ini kan panjang jangkauannya bukan hanya sepanjang kaki, tapi sudah sepanjang tubuh!!
Tak ada yang lebih puas daripada my husb's expression demi melihat betapa aku sangat enjoy liat copueira (jadi jamunya lakuuuu he he). Well, for I've always been able to easily enjoy almost anything, its not that big deal anyway, hi hi. But thanx for the date my dear, I really had a great time there.
But now u leave me lonely here in our room hiks...demi chelsea dan nonton bersama di cafe... It's okay, its not the first time anyway (n definitely i'm sure it wont be the last either hueheh). Tentang bola, well, I've worked my butt out as hard as I can to love it...but I just can't!! Another friend (via chat ym) suggested that maybe it would helped if I look up to those pretty faces of soccer player's so I can enjoy watching the game along with my husband. No, I've been tried, they just don't do any help. I'm not that kind of woman who can easily impressed by pretty faces.
00.00 am already...
my favorite pillow n blanket is still out there, in cafe cheering up for chelsea...both my husb's arms... so how can I sleep just now?
Discovery Travel&Living has been one of my favorite channel. They only has a few show that was out of my preference. I love almost all of their show. Even Miami Ink! Regardless my disagreed about tattoo, somehow I love to watch this show. Out of my curiousity, I wanna know why people do their tatoo, what is their story, n why they put so much emotion into their tatoo. Emotion, this is the part that amazed me most. I mean, your emotion could be something temporary, while tatoo, it's more permanent right? Take this case for example : Angelina Jolie's tatoo of "Billy Bob Thornton" name, planted right into her arm. Not to mention that she put it into spotlight too, everybody (that time) might think how deep is their relationship must be. The tatoo planted into skin is the symbol, once again, its planted. But what happen? they splitted, the lovestory was ended. The tatoo? well maybe it can be removed (with today's sophisticated technology of skin), but anyway, your skin would never be the same. And Jolie? everybody now couldn't just forgot bout the failure of her lovestory with Bob, the one that WAS looked so deep it's even symbolized with tatoo. So, is it just looked n felt so silly n ridicolous or what??"The Naked Chef" show is airing right now. I love it! Not for the recipies they presenting, but how exactly the chef presenting it. I can't care more about the recipi for most of them came in western way n ingredients. But the facts that many chef in that show confessed that the recipi was something that came out of something simple, careless, even silly things that happen while they're cooking. Improvisasi memasaknya itu lho, sounds like me banget!! he he he very inspirational... Maybe thats why they named the show "The Naked Chef" for the first place.
"blom selesai ya sayang?" I sms my husb earlier
"ini udah perjalanan pulang," he just replied
00.15 now...
what to write now? my YM contacts have all gone by now. I can see one of my contacts is "idle for 1 day, 13 hours and 52 minutes"...poor him. He can't just go offline since he worked for UN (UNDP) in terms of 24/7 of workingtime.
finally....
husb is home !!
gotta go now, my favourite pillow n blankie are finally here :D
hope this sleepless comes to its happy end...warm nice sleep in my husb's arms...hemm...
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